Beating myself up.
This act of beating myself up, doesn’t always consist of a round of negative thoughts, although sometimes it does. Often it’s a feeling. It’s a self-critical and harsh feeling. It feels like a ferocious participant in an inner fight, it’s got the boxing gloves on while the other opponent trembles.
My Inner Critic sounds like a psychological cliché but it feels like a fitting phrase. Through therapy, Mindfulness practice and reading a lot, I’ve learnt to become more aware of this critic. I am sometimes able to question it (me) with gentleness and compassion. Sometimes I can feel my inner world soften and respond, which is quite a beautiful feeling.
Of course I still beat myself up! I’m not always aware, especially when things are difficult. I still struggle with stressful situations. When I should be bathing in self compassion and eating healthy foods to counteract the stress, I still find myself gorging on doughnuts, beating myself up and doing the opposite of what helps, Ironic! But I think I am getting a little bit better.
I read the book ‘Stop Beating Yourself up and leave insecurity behind’ by Kristin Neff – It’s about Self Compassion. It’s one of the most helpful books I have ever read.
Thank you for reading x